Friday, April 29, 2005

"The leaders of America's anti-gay industry are directly responsible for the continuing surge in hate violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people. While other forms of crime continued to fall, the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs has documented a 4% increase in anti-LGBT crime in 2004, coming on the heels of a 26% increase in the last half of 2003. This spike in violence parallels the exact same period since the Right went into demonic, anti-gay hyperdrive following the Supreme Courts Lawrence v. Texas decision in July of 2003. Since then, church pews and the public airwaves have been awash in ugly, anti-gay rhetoric and fear-mongering.

"These words obviously do not just vanish into the ether - as intended, they are absorbed and become fuel and justification for violence. To say otherwise defies reality.

The literal blood of the thousands of gay people physically wounded by hate during 2004 is on the hands of Jerry Falwell, James Dobson, Tony Perkins, and so many others who spew hate for partisan gain and personal enrichment."

Thursday, April 28, 2005

En abril, aguas mil.
sorta 'April showers bring May flowers' in spanish. what a lovely way to say it!

Alliance Building-- CA NAACP Supports Same Sex Marriage

This past weekend, history was made as a resolution in support of civil marriage equality and religious freedom was approved (without dissent) by the California State Democratic Party convention.

This resolution was strongly supported by the leadership of the California Chapter of the NAACP. The CA NAACP recently voted to support AB19 and civil marriage equality, at a time when the Republican Party and evangelical Christian organizations are trying to network within African-American churches to create divisiveness around the issue of same sex marriage.

The recent endorsement and support of gay and lesbian marriage by CA NAACP has not been without costs. Some members have left the CA NAACP in protest. We strongly encourage members of Alice to take this message of support and coalition building to heart and join the CA NAACP this week.

Simply go to www.ca-naacp.org to join or renew. (Then click on that page in the upper-left corner on "Membership Access".) Memberships start at $30. After doing so, please send Alice a message at info@alicebtoklas.org which we will forward to the president of the CA NAACP so they can recognize our mutual support.

Tuesday, April 26, 2005

196

Memo to wingnuts: The pharmacists who want "freedom of conscience" to refuse to fill legal prescriptions for women seeking contraceptive devices are no different from the diner owners who wanted "freedom of conscience" not to serve blacks. This decade seems to be all about licensing bigotry and calling it conscience.

Sunday, April 24, 2005

the fact that this is even a topic of politics is simply ludicrous...
...if a pharmacist wants to decide which prescriptions to fill based on personal beliefs, rather than the health needs of a customer and the medical decision of a doctor, he or she is in the wrong profession.

simply outrageous!

Saturday, April 23, 2005

as this posting is about to expire (for some reason frontiers magazine doesn't seem to have an archive system on their website), i'm going to reprint this full editorial on the pope's death (which was written before the new pope, but mentions the new pope as a possible successor and why that would be terrible). it's a perfect example of the type of articles written in the gay press these days about 'not wanting to speak ill of the dead' but wanting to set the record straight about why he was not a friend to us. and it's appropriately detailed and harsh:

"What the ‘Morally Disordered’ Remember
For Gays the Pope's Good Work Is Overshadowed by a Legacy of Discrimination"

It’s often considered uncouth to speak ill of the dead. But what if the dead person in question was someone who continually put you down, called you “morally disordered” and “evil,” and considered your love for another human to be menace to the planet’s social fabric? When that person dies, do you sit back, speak only pleasantries, and try to be diplomatic?

When Pope John Paul II passed away April 2, the world seemed to forget Iraq, Terri Schiavo, and so-called “activist judges” for a moment, but few people outside the gay press dared to say anything about the pontiff that might be construed as negative.

After all, they say, the man born Karol Wojtyla in Wodawice, Poland, in 1920, was instrumental in dismantling communism across Eastern Europe (always mindful of living through the Nazi occupation of his homeland); he was the first pope from outside Italy in centuries; the first pope to recognize Israel; and he traveled the world giving moving speeches about human rights. But there is no denying that when it came to the issues of gay rights, reproductive choice, and even the sex-abuse scandal that erupted in the United States over the last three years—after decades of molestation of Catholic youths by priests—the pope was rigid, unyielding, and often spouted rhetoric that only reinforced hard-line church doctrine.

John Paul II ascended to his position in October 1978. At the time, gay issues were beginning to take their place on the national and global stage, and even the Catholic Church seemed to be heading in a more liberal direction. Once he took over, however, a decidedly conservative bent came back to the Vatican. When the pope finally did address the issue of homosexuality in 1986—some five years into the AIDS epidemic—it was only to condemn. In his “Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Pastoral Care of Homosexual Persons,” he wrote: “Although the particular inclination of the homosexual person is not a sin, it is a more or less strong tendency ordered toward an intrinsic moral evil; thus the inclination itself must be seen as an objective disorder. Therefore, special concern and pastoral attention should be directed to those who have this condition, lest they be led to believe that the living out of this orientation in homosexual activity is a morally acceptable option. It is not.” Gays were allowed to exist so long as they were celibate, did not push for the right to marry and adopt, or, in general, say they were equal to heterosexuals. In other words, love the sinner but hate the sin.

Over the next two decades, the pontiff’s view did not soften at all; in fact, it seemed to become steelier. His ire toward gays grew as we gained rights—most notably as same-sex marriage and civil unions were legalized in countries across the world. In his book “Memory and Identity,” which was published earlier this year, he labeled same-sex marriage “part of a new ideology of evil.”

Statements like these caused many Catholics to leave the church over the last 25 years, or at least to engage in “cafeteria Catholicism,” in which they pick and choose which doctrines they find acceptable and ignore the rest. To the Vatican, these are the people who have weakened the church; to these Catholics, however, it’s the Vatican that is out of touch with the modern world.

While the pope blustered and fumed about equal rights for gays, however, he also remained very quiet on the sex-abuse scandal that rocked the church in the United States—and he completely refused to address the issue of gay clergy.

Now, as the pope is laid to rest and the ritual of choosing his successor moves forward, gays around the world are waiting to see if the conservatism of the last two decades will abate. In a recent Associated Press poll, conducted the weekend of John Paul’s death, 69% of all Americans (and 60% of Catholics) said the next pope should allow priests to marry, while 64% (60% of Catholics) said women should be allowed to become priests. The numbers are not yet in when it comes to same-sex marriage, but bear in mind that the only state to legalize such unions is Massachusetts, also a Catholic stronghold. All of the above are issues John Paul would not even consider.

It seems unlikely that much will change with a new pope, however, given John Paul’s appointment of a large number of conservative cardinals. Take Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, head of the Vatican’s Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, for example. He is more doctrinaire than John Paul and is widely considered even more antigay; he was the man who was instrumental in drafting the 1986 Letter. Is that what we have to look forward to?

The idea of a loving, caring higher power is one in which we’d all like to believe, but when men like the pope can and do use their positions to selectively choose who is worth saving and whom we should condemn, it’s hardly a wonder at this moment that many gays, not to mention a number of Catholics, are not shedding tears for his passing.

Pope John Paul II did, indeed, help orchestrate some good in this world, and for that he should be rightfully remembered. But he was also unyielding and dogmatic, and willing to viciously attack gays as threats to society. One can mourn the passing of a man’s life, but when his words linger like acrimonious smoke, it’s impossible to see only benevolence.

dear sweet jessie is always talking about how i say the same things all the time. in fact he's for years talked about how he wants to develop a pull-string doll of me that has my common sayings inside.

fine. we all have stock phrases that we use in friendly conversation with those around us. only he doesn't believe that he has any. in fact, yesterday, he challenged me to come up with even five for him because according to him that would not be possible. for his, and my own future reference, i list the following stock phrases, in no particular order, from jessie:

Let Daddy take care of it
Tell Daddy all about it
Come on, it'll be fun
You like what you see?
That reeks
(or similar statements relating to his incredibly sensitive sense of smell)
I don't know what's going on here, but I'm going to have to call security
For the ____
(second/third/fourth/etc.) time...
I already told you...
Was it you I was with when...
You have a website?
taking care of some business
What's up my ____
(insert a wild variety of colloquial racist terms that he says in jest, i think, and that i've had many talks-to with him about)
Chris who?
I gotta crap
(or other variations related to crapping)
Bonus section: a long list of what I like to lovingly refer to as his own type of Tourette's responses to anything and everything

Those of you who know him may recognize a few of these above, and may have a few to add to the list. Please do!

Friday, April 22, 2005

GET ARRESTED

and save the show!
check out the hilarious video of Dr. Funke on the site...

Thursday, April 21, 2005

i'll take a pic later tonight, but i had another column in today's bay area reporter. here's the column for those who can't pick up a local copy of the newspaper.

Wednesday, April 20, 2005


it's a little known fact that i keep confusing the new pope with the guy from cheers?
Joseph Ratzinger or John Ratzenberger
coincidence?

the new pope sucks

more to come
unfortunately, much more....

Tuesday, April 19, 2005

again, i apologize for not posting regularly. i've been so incredibly busy throughout the last week with all my new/growing activities. and the last several days i've been spending a great deal of time writing another column for the Bay Area Reporter (B.A.R.) which I've finished, but won't show you until thursday when it's public. anyway, now that i'm done with that and getting through other projects, i should be back here full throttle

Saturday, April 16, 2005

i wrap my arm around her warm body
and lay my head right next to hers
she licks my forehead
and i kiss her neck
she then intersperses between licking my head and cleaning her paw
purring vigorously
she licks my eyelid and i pull away
she finds a new spot on my hair and begins again
we fall asleep


this moment brought to you by me and my cat Amaya

Friday, April 15, 2005

been crazy busy this week
i realized that i'm working 5 different jobs right now. some are small projects that will end soon, but this week is crazy...

Tuesday, April 12, 2005

sorry my comments haven't been working lately. not sure why, but i've sent in a query to blogger about it. for some reason all my comments throughout my 4+ years on here have disappeared, but i'm still getting them emailed to me. very strange.

just as a followup, i had the best time this weekend with my fam nathan and his wife julia. and this goes directly to my point about the idea of fam; that some friendships and connections are more than friendships in the common use of the term. they're more like the idea of family. anyway, reconnecting with nathan was like nothing easily explained. it simply was perfectly connecting with people in life you know you're meant to be close to.

Sunday, April 10, 2005

one of my dearest friends on the planet, my fam, nathan, is visiting me in san francisco for the first time this weekend. i haven't seen him in something like three years and we never get to talk all that much either. so it's just wonderful hanging out with him. and on such a beautiful weekend too.

Saturday, April 09, 2005

an American civil rights icon passed away recently and so few knew about him. in fact i myself knew little about him, other than in generalities. i'm pleased that i've learned much more about him of late, even though it's through the sad time of his passing, particularly through the detailed remembrances in AsianWeek. hearing about his struggle, the simple wrongness of the courts and executive branch and legislators at the time, it all brings to mind the simple wrongness that much of what constitutes as legality in regards to terrorism and such and how, maybe, one day we'll be able to look back and see how simply wrong it all is and wonder how/why.

The struggles of Fred Korematsu and others provide the quintessential story of a democracy that is strong enough to admit mistakes. The late-life denunciations of the PATRIOT Act by Korematsu and many other Japanese Americans provide an example of how we as Americans can learn from the past and apply those lessons to the present.

don't know much about Fred Korematsu? get to know him.

So, in honor of Fred Korematsu, I want to do what I can: Make up a word. Coin a phrase. It’s in my license as a columnist.
We mourn the passing of the noun. Today, I give you the verb: to korematsu — 1. to perform an incredible act of courage against authority, but remaining steadfast in the knowledge that you have the moral upper-hand. 2. To endure and suffer great losses in the name of the community, while the system takes its time to ultimately vindicate your position.
So long, Fred.
In your absence, we all vow to korematsu more often.


Thank you, Fred, for inspiring so many of us with your courage, your strength and your vision. You were a true American hero.

last night i had the most amazing dinner

my friends, susan and phil, invited me over to their place for dinner. and there was so much food. more than humanly possible to eat. there was lasagna (vegetarian & meat-filled), pad thai, overflowing salad, tiramisu, chocolate pudding cake with icecream, bread with a cucumber-mix topping, and then
and then...
there was to be paella later
a huge paella filled with seafood and chicken and rice and vegetables and so many other delicious foods to stuff oneself with.

unfortunately i had to leave before the paella was made because it was getting late and i had already gorged myself full of everything else. and the desserts filled my tummy full of crapilicious delights. they were so good!

when we first sat down to eat the first courses, i said that i may have to stay at the dinner table for a few hours and just eat and eat and eat. and i did do that, but i simply couldn't make it for round 2 with the paella which still hadn't been made yet. i look back now in disgust with myself for leaving without eating more and more, especially the paella. but then it was late and i had to get across town and i could no longer button my pants and i was feeling like falling asleep in my plate. so it's probably better i went home

i got home and fell right to sleep and this morning, well, i'm still full. so much food. i'm still sad i missed the paella, but my grandma and mom would be most proud.

Thursday, April 07, 2005

Can you hear me now, Verizon?
Good.

A network of large corporate backers have come, cash-in-hand, to DeLay's defense. American Airlines, Bacardi USA, Nissan USA, RJ Reynolds, and Verizon have all contributed thousands to Tom DeLay's Legal Defense Fund.

i'll have more to say on this soon, but finally some of the underground/gay/people's press is starting to finally say what needs to be said

while not wanting to speak ill of the dead, the pope was the number one homophobe on the planet, didn't know how to deal with the realities of women, sex, AIDS, and queers. as much as the world glorifies his positive works towards peace and social justice and whatnot, they've left out much of the negative. perhaps soon these less-than-beautiful aspects will be acknowledged and spoken...

Tuesday, April 05, 2005

It's not uncommon to hear or read pundits referring to ... George W. Bush as a "popular" leader or even a "very popular" one. Even some of his critics in the press refer to him this way. Perhaps they need to check the latest polls.... Here are the approval ratings for presidents as recorded by Gallup (all for March [of the beginning of their second term]):

Truman, 1949: 57%.
Eisenhower, 1957: 65%.
Johnson, 1965: 69%.
Nixon, 1973: 57%.
Reagan, 1985: 56%.
Clinton, 1997: 59%.
Bush, 2005: 45%.


when do the democrats begin to fight again? when do we really fight against bad policies/extremism in congress and around the country when we know that bush and the republicans are actually wearing nothing but the emperor's new clothes? and when do we begin winning again when we know bush and the republicans poll so badly?

Monday, April 04, 2005

while jessie took this very cute picture of my cat, he quipped, 'she's so beautiful, if only she weren't so psycho...'

she is really beautiful, ain't she?

Sunday, April 03, 2005

been busy lately getting my monthly newsletter finalized. it's finally done and out. you can see it here.